What's it like "dating" a non-Christian?

When I moved to NYC, I seriously thought about getting in contact with a quasi classmate from a class that I dropped out of during 1st year of college. But, the problem was that there'd be religious conflict between my religion and his. I think the smartest decision I could have made out of that school year was contacting him to help me adjust with my move to the city. Part of the reason why I didn't meet with Sharon Han, David Kim, and Jenn Kim was because I still had the church in mind and planned to go to church the following day, which I did and where I coincidentally encountered Eugene K. and the other Columbia law student named Kane (both guys had reactions that I still remember). Anyways, I didn't meet with my old college friends, foregoing the chance to get into contact with the old friend. 

But, what would it be like as a Christian to "date" outside of the religion? It would be hard. I can't imagine an absence of God in my day to day life. Without admitting to the need for Jesus Christ, it's like saying there isn't any need. Not only that, life in Manhattan/NYC area is tough. Life is about overworking, and with that kind of schedule, I can't imagine not going to church, not worshipping with fellow believers, and not praying. I'd also want to share that part of me with the person I'm "dating". I ended up encountering/meeting Korean guys in the church, and I truly believe God provided in a timely manner. 

I had my dad's cousin and her daughter to help me adjust to life in Manhattan. I don't think they are Christians but they were still helpful. 

Life for me got tricky once I left Columbia Uni. I had no "dating" pool and instead I used dating apps. 
I've had not so wholesome experiences with dating apps, and I sort of think that's because it's outside the church. I had no other option, while returning to Fresno from NYC, though. And, life just worked out that way where it led me down the wrong path. In hindsight, I still blame my chin problems for lack of judgment and ill decision making. It's always my chin problem. 

Also, compared to NYC, Fresno is a desert when it comes to "dating". In 20s and 30s, I highly recommend Korean girls to leave Fresno and reside in larger metropolitan areas where there is a concentration of Koreans, especially working professionals. It's easier to find "the one". As for myself, I'm 41 and can live in Fresno happily as a single (and fat) woman.


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